This weekend I’m at a seminar hosted by the Center for Action and Contemplation, Richard Rohr’s spiritual think tank in Albuquerque. A stroke, a heart attack, and cancer treatments have taken their toll on Rohr. He was rolled onto stage in his wheelchair, his very good dog Opie by his side. “I signed up for celibacy before I really knew what I was doing. But Opie cuddles me at night,” he said, laughing. Later he talked about how the biggest decisions in life are the erotic ones. “I’m not talking about sex,” he said, or not only about sex. “I’m talking about the callings that take you beyond logic and predictability. A decision you make based on the good, the true, and the beautiful. A decision that transforms you.”
What a waste of time, he ruminated, talking about the Catholic church’s emphasis for hundreds of years on penances and other attempts to buy grace from God. Our religion is not transactional, he said. It is transformational.
God does not need to be talked into loving his children, he said. God doesn’t have to be paid off. God is – organically – in love with his creation. All of it. Not just the Catholics, not just the Christians. Also the rabbit caught in the trap – scared, bleeding, dying.
Richard Rohr still commands the stage with a quiet voice, speaking slowly enough for me to take good notes. I’ll share more of his thoughts with you next week.
Today’s Bacon is brought to you by another great theologian, Frederick Buechner.
From Listening to Your Life, Oct 20:
A woman with a scarf over her head hoists her six-year-old up onto the first step of the school bus. “Goodbye,” she says.
A father on the phone with his freshman son has just finished bawling him out for his poor grades. There is mostly silence at the other end of the line. “Well, goodbye,” the father says.
When the girl at the airport hears the announcement that her plane is starting to board, she turns to the boy who is seeing her off. “I guess this is goodbye,” she says.
The noise of the traffic almost drowns out the sound of the word, but the shape of it lingers on the old man’s lips. He tries to look vigorous and resourceful as he holds out his hand to the other old man. “Goodbye.” This time they say it so nearly in unison that it makes them both smile.
It was a long while ago that the words God be with you disappeared into the word goodbye, but every now and again some trace of them still glimmers through.
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Sincerest thanks to Shelby Moody for recommending that I stay at Los Poblanos, an enchanting lavender farm on the outskirts of town.






Jennifer, One of my dearest friends and spiritual mentors was there, too, Ed Bacon. I so hope you got to meet him. He put some things out in Instagram from the conference and it touched me deeply. What a gift to be in the presence of Richard Rohr. I love this writing by Buechner. “Listening to Your Life” has been part of my daily meditation for over 25 years and it brings new inspiration every day. Thank you so much for this post. Rebecca
Good morning Rebecca! I’m sorry I don’t know Ed. I have run into several other Nashvillians here! (Among the 2500+ people.) I had no idea it would be such a large gathering. It has felt a bit overwhelming at times, and also I’ve been very grateful to be here. I love that you have spent so many years with Buechner. This is my 4th time through “Listening to Your Life” and I expect to keep it in my morning meditation as long as I can read. Xoxo
I love Listening to your Life! What a good reminder to pull it out for another read. Thank you
I bet you’ll be so glad you did, Elizabeth! I love it so much. I never grow tired of it. Xoxo
Jennifer,
What a beautiful piece. So many jewels.
Thank you so much, Susan. I truly appreciate you being in touch. Xoxo
What a range of emotions! “Goodbye”–oh no, she’s leaving too! Envy–Richard Rohr! Pleased–Jennifer is quoting from the Buechner book I have been reading all year as part of my morning devotions. Relief–she’s not leaving. Oh, and I loved the pics. Had to chuckle with you over the last one. Don’t know what will happen when I can no longer log in via WordPress, but guess it will just be with my email. Anyway, thanks for getting my Sunday morning starting in such a beautiful way. Peace, LaMon
This conference has stirred up a range of emotions in me too… it’s such an encouragement to live in the light of God’s love, and in particular, to lean into action, not just contemplation. Perhaps this conference has been like a good sermon… it makes you a little uncomfortable. It always makes me happy to hear from you, LaMon!
I’m so glad you were able to attend the conference. I find meaning in the daily reflections I receive from the Center for Action and Contemplation.
I do too, Rebecca! I’m glad to know you enjoy them too. Xoxo
Jennifer, thank you for this beautiful post! I love the reading from Buechner’s Listening to Your Life. I read from that book daily for a couple of years. This inspires me to pick it up again. I also love the photos, particularly the one with the caption “Me too.” I can relate! Looking forward to hearing more about your time at the conference with Richard Rohr. Emily ox
Haha that’s my favorite of the photos too! It’s really nice to hear from you, Emily. Xoxo
This sounds like an amazing event. Richard Rohr gets all of the things right about religion & as a recovering Catholic, I love that he is comfortable taking a different view of some of their inflexible teachings.
I have not read Buechner—will give him a try! Hope all is well. Love from all of the Osbornes
The more I learn from and about Rohr, the more I admire him. I’m currently reading The Universal Christ for the second time. I wonder if you’ve read that? I miss you, Mary! Sending much love to you, Matt, and the girls. Xoxo
Good Morning from California, Jennifer and other readers,
I too am grateful for this lovely post and also relieved that the ‘goodbye” was not an announcement from Jennifer.
I follow Richard Rohr’s daily posts and other writings — how delightful and supportive that you are sharing this reflection about the conference. The photos are beautiful, and I feel pulled into your experience.
Once again your sharing has touched me and helped my spirit during a very difficult family time — such a reminder that God works in mysterious ways and we never know when we will be a channel of peace as you and others who have shared are today.
Thank you and blessing to all,
Paulette
Paulette, Your own message has blessed me so much. It is hard to know what we are getting right in the world when there is so much left undone. It means so much to me that this post has touched you today. I know God will comfort you in your difficulties and I will pray for you today. Xoxo
Such a beautiful message today❤️
Barby, it’s so nice to hear your voice… I hope our paths will cross soon! Thank you. Sending very warmest wishes… xoxo
So wonderful you got to be in a seminar with Richard Rohr! My days start with his message. He has taught me so much.
It’s the goodbyes that we don’t know are the last ones are the ones we remember.
I have learned so much from him too. One of my friends always says, “Blessings” instead of “Goodbye.” I like that. It’s different and memorable. And easier on the heart than goodbye. Xoxo
How awesome that you are spending the weekend with Rohr. Tomorrow I humbly teach the church staff about the Enneagram… so many of us who study the Enneagram have been shaped by Rohr.
I know only a little bit about the Enneagram and would love to know more! I’ll be in touch, Sara! Xoxo
Hey, Jennifer: Sallie and I are just back from New Mexico. We loved RR’s ReVision Conference. Amazing to see you in the check-in line. Hope to see you in the neighborhood SOON!
JHB
Hi John! It was amazing to see you and Sallie there! Indeed – I hope our paths cross here soon as well! Xoxo